He leads...She guides

The following is a big chunk of text stolen from 'Doing things right in matters of the heart'...girltalks current book for their bookclub. I just found this very helpful, and sorry to some of you, it pretty much applies to marriage! Oh yeah and they are on ch10 or something, this is from ch7, im a bit behind.

In matters of the heart, it is right that men should lead and women welcome and guide that leadership. She is helpmate (gen2v18). Her goal is to give her man all the help he needs to lead well. His goal is to humbly accept the responsibility and not run from it or wield it like a club.
The guidance that she provides him comes mainly in two forms: in helping him think clearly and encouraging him to act confidently. What comes from this is a shared victory. If it proves a mistake, it is borne together. Either way, what is fostered is true unity of spirit which is the heart of the matter, where the two become one. We have to work at it, but if we do, true unity is fostered and preserved in the complementary exchange of male leadership and female guidance.

i dont know if this is helpful for anyone reading or not. im not sure if this is a universal thing but the more i read about marriage i know im not alone. i feel like im more of the leader but know in my head i shouldnt be. some older women have told me that u have this picture of marriage in ur head and u submitting but the reality is just not the same. but i think thats a bit of a cop out. i doubt it is something that comes easy peasy the day u get home from honeymoon. it has to be worked at. it is not effortless. women secretly want to lead and men secretly dont want to. but to be wise, would be to resist this desire and instead of getting annoyed about things that arent done, leave him some space to become the leader that God wants him to be. im not very patient and by no means have mastered this...so join me in my aim to help our husbands be the leader that God wants them to be.

This week on girltalk...

...they have posted about motherhood, which I thought some of you might enjoy.

Do not forsake meeting together...

Some of you more knowledgeable ones reading this know the exact wording of the verse and reference. But I experienced real meaning of it yesterday. Do not forsake meeting together with other believers...
Yesterday morning to be honest I didn't really want to go to church...I don't know why but staying in bed seemed a much easier option. But we got there and was I glad...within seconds of corporate worship I was convicted of all my selfish thoughts. It's not about me. God is amazing and I should be living my life full of praise for all that he has done.
Just being there got me back on track. Gilbert Lennox was speaking on Psalm 103. Excellent.

Anyway I better go to work...don't let exhaustion get the better of you guys. Do not forsake meeting together with other believers.